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Perfectionism Obstructs Happiness

Perfectionism Obstructs Happiness

by Eric on May 25, 2009

This is the first post of this new site. The theme of tonights discussion group is “Perfectionism” from the Pathwork lecture of the same title, #97 (lecture here).

It is fitting for me to have as the theme of the first post to be Perfectionism, as my relationship with perfectionism arises quickly in my writing, web design, and putting forth what I write and the events that I do. My desire to have things done just right often prevents me from doing it at all, and so, here is my exposing not only that trait, but my less than perfect results.
The Pathwork lecture, “Perfectionism Obstructs Happiness; Manipulation of Emotions” (#97), like most other lectures, holds many surprises in it, even after repeated readings. One of the gems in it is the notion of seeking out where in life you feel short changed. Where do I feel like life has not met my desires, or heard my complaints? Where does this leave me resentful?

“Only when you fully realize your resentment against imperfection, can you begin to accept it. And only as you accept imperfection, can you lead a joyful life, can you derive enjoyment out of your relationships. But as long as you unconsciously strive for a perfectionism that does not exist on your earth, without being aware of your doing so, you cannot accept it, and therefore your life, your relationships will be spoiled. You cannot grow and thus change that which is changeable and could be much better, even though never perfect.”

Such simple wisdom. Not the sometimes obtuse and difficult to grasp concepts that the Pathwork Guide offers, but clear and simple. We have to see where we fight imperfection to be able to accept it and grow towards our longing. Of course, we say, when we read it. But then what? Do we really do the work to excavate these things. My invitation to you is to give this a try. Take some time to meditate on where you feel resentment against the imperfections of your life. Shed some light here, some conscious light. Talk to a friend, or a helper.

Or come to the free discussion that Lisa Schumacher and I are doing tonight, as described below.

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